Can I share a secret with you and I mean a real secret….do you know that one of my biggest regrets is over 20+ years old. My college list had two colleges on it Spellman College and Drexel University. When I went to talk to my counselor about Drexel she said don’t you want to go to cosmetology school, now I my mom and dad both have been talking to me about college since I was 5 years old so college so deciding not to go to college was never an option. If I am going to be honest, her words put some unconscious doubts in my head about whether or not I “belonged” in college, so I never applied to Drexel.
My first choice though was Spellman College. I wanted to go to an all girl school, I wanted the experience of being around world changing, intelligent women because I always knew I was one, as well. I wanted to be challenged, and stretched, I just knew that was where I needed to be. I had never been there to visit, but I just knew it was the right school for me. I was all set to apply, and I was excited I was a good student overall, smart, incredibly active. Everything was ready to go, and then my first quarter report card came out, all A’s and one E, in Elementary Functions. That one grade changed everything for me after that “E” I couldn’t even bring myself to apply, it was a wrap. They weren’t going to reject me! I was going to withdrawal my application before they ever got a chance to see it. One of the worst decisions of my life! Imagine my frustration and disappointment when I found out that a girl who was similar to me, straight A’s except for one E in Elementary Functions, and as active as I was in school applied and got accepted I closed my own door because I was afraid of a NO. I was afraid I would get rejected, and I was heartbroken. I feared something that never happened, and I never even tried!
The question that you face daily is not whether you can do something, the question is normally, whether you will! I am totally convinced that each of us has what it takes to be successful. There is no question in my mind that you are all gifted and talented, there is something in you that is ready to change the world. Real Talk, there are very few people who will ever push themselves far enough to see what is possible in their own lives. They will take themselves out of the running just like I did with my college application. Maybe you know someone who has done the same things in their own lives, you may even know them intimately.
Life choices, fear, and those naughty voices inside of our heads that make us second guess ourselves are real, and they can stop us before we ever start. The chitter and chatter around us, the voices of others, and those rumbling that make us feel like we can’t do something, and after a while the small amount of courage you had is gone. You close the doors of opportunity before you ever get a chance to start the process. It is similar to having the audition of a lifetime offered to you, and deciding not to show up because you are afraid that you might fail.
Not applying to that school haunts me to this day, it is a driver for me. I won’t miss out on another opportunity, and I won’t quit again. I can’t get that opportunity back it is gone forever, but the gift is I won’t let anyone else who comes in my presence turn their back on an opportunity that could change their life.
THIS YEAR DREAM BIGGER!!!
My heartfelt plea to you today is GO FOR IT, not tomorrow, TODAY! Don’t take yourself out of the running before you start again. If you fail, at least you know it wasn’t because you didn’t try.
What was one of your biggest regrets? Is there a decision that you made out of fear that you wish you could change?