Don’t you hate it when you put so much time and effort into something and you realize you were going in the wrong direction, or you realize that if you had just made a few changes here and there you would be in a completely different place.
Can I tell you over the last few years that has happened to me more times than I would like to count. I can’t even begin to tell you how many things didn’t happen because I need to make a change in direction or timing and no one told me. So, I missed out because I didn’t have a clue.
Do you know some of your best opportunities are probably laying right in front of you right now, but you could miss them totally or completely delay them because you aren’t making the right kinds of moves.
I really want you to learn from my mistakes, so I am sharing mine with you. I am writing bi-weekly and at times even daily on the Girlfriends With Goals blog, because I just don’t believe that all of us need to make the same mistakes over and over again.
Today, I just wanted to share a few pointers with you that I hope you will put into practice, so that you won’t waste all the time that I have.
First, stop being afraid to make mistakes. Say this with me…”Mistakes are part of life, I will make them so there is no sense playing everything super safe”. Mistakes are part of the learning process. Now make smart mistakes, but don’t be so afraid of making mistakes that you don’t accomplish anything. Doing anything at all with your life requires you to think about what could happen, but don’t allow yourself to become so stuck that you don’t move.
With that being said, second is don’t be stupid! Learn from the mistakes of others. The odds are, if the last three people who went down that flooded road, got their cars stuck in the water. Please don’t be car number 4! Yes, it is true that all people are not the same, but please take a GOOD look at what caused the other people to fail. They may have made a small mistake in judgement that could help you succeed, but you need to know what they did so you don’t do the same thing. Learn from the obvious, and learn from the mistakes others have made before you.
Third, ask questions! It is better to look “dumb” in the class by asking 100 questions in a place that is created for education than to go out in to the world and make dumb mistakes because you were not clear about what you were told, and you didn’t ask. Over time, I have gained the most knowledge from asking questions that most people wanted to know, but never asked. If you have a question for God sake’s ask it. It may save you tons of time, and tons of money.
Four, set time limits on your decisions based on their importance, so you don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis. If it takes you 2 days to figure out where you are going to eat dinner with your date you are probably over thinking things. On the other hand, if it takes you a week to figure out which surgery to have, that makes sense. Know what each situation warrants, big decisions take more time to make than little decisions. Set a time limit for decisions, based on the amount of time that the outcome will impact you. Make a habit of seeking WISE counsel! Figure out which items are really making the decision difficult for you to make, and then try a pros and cons list. Don’t waste tons of time keeping important things in the air, when you can really move forward.
Here are just a few things for you to consider. Look at my YouTube channel for videos, and check out my Facebook and Twitter feeds for valuable information that I share. In Club Commit, as we look at How to Overcome Overwhelm, I will be sharing more information. So look out for more resources and valuable information. Until later!