Cynthia Bailey You Are Not Alone, I Cry Sometimes Too! Raising a Teenage Daughter Is Hard Work!
In last night’s episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta, Cynthia Bailey and Nene Leakes got into an interest conversation about raising a teen. I don’t have a son, so I can’t say that I can totally relate to what it is like to raise one, but I do have a daughter and whoa is that an experience.
This article is not about taking sides, because I think both of them had areas of truth that should be shared, and not attacked. Raising a child in today’s world is something else. There are so many things to get into, there is so much peer pressure and with the Web, it is easier than ever to make costly mistakes that can follow you for a lifetime.
So being a parent during these times has its fair share of challenges and frustrations. I know I myself have had many sleepless nights, and days when as a mother I cried, and wanted to quit. You wonder how you can protect your child from those mistakes they can’t even imagine at their age. You wonder how their peers are influencing their behavior, or even how they might be influencing their friends. Oye vey! You wonder how you can translate the experience you have over to them, only to find out they think you are stupid and clueless about the times they live in today.
Despite the mother daughter tensions that can exist, you love your child with everything you have. You hope that you can protect them from enough of life’s challenges, while giving them the room to make enough mistakes to grow and find their own strength and identity.
This journey obviously comes with triumphs and trials. As a parent, you have to make peace with your own choices. It helps to have your own support system in place. I have found prayer, faith, and counseling to be incredibly important tools. Praying and conversations with people who have been there, and done that are sanity savers. It reminds you that in spite of it all you can make it through your child’s teenage years alive and well, and you can even live to tell about it.
Being a parent is by far one of the greatest gifts. You have the privilege of being part of bringing another person into this world, and/or being there for them as they grow and develop. It can be hard, and that is why you need resources, support, and encouragement along the way. You have to learn how to parent each child differently as they go through the different phases of their lives. That means we have to learn how to grow and stretch, as well. At least some of the struggles I think you face as a parent is learning that your baby is not a little girl anymore. Your role as a parent changes, they don’t need you to do everything for them, and you shouldn’t they need to learn how to do some things on their own. You also have to remember that they still need you around, even when they don’t think they do or when they act like they don’t.
So, I understand why Cynthia Bailey cried. Parenting is hard work, and the pressure of doing the best you can and then letting go some times just feels overwhelming. No mother or father wants to feel like they messed up their child. So, the best advice I can offer is do the best you can, get the help you need, have faith and take as it comes by taking one step and one day at a time.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be the best mom you can be. I am the parent of a gifted, talented and sweet 16 year-old girl, and I only want the best for her. Parenting is not easy, especially now!
So, Cynthia Bailey you are not alone, sometimes I cry too.
For parents, who are in this with me… here are a few resources that you may want to check out. I have found them incredibly helpful, perhaps you will too.
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