Ok, I am going to tell the truth.  I really enjoy watching the show #InsecureHBO.  I love the quirky characters, the story line, I even love the music.  It’s also another show that makes Twitter come alive  with crazy comments and tons of opinions.  If you ever want to laugh, you should take a look at the #TeamLawrence twitter commentary.   I know I fell out of my chair when I saw this.

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There is something relatable about both Issa and Lawrence, they are the couple you root for and they just seem well, normal.  Young in love and trying to do the darn thing, but having problems.  When the show opened with Season 1, I was really excited, that was until the last couple of episodes.  Why Lawrence, Why?

Wednesday got us feeling like…
#InsecureHBO @IssaRae @JayREllis pic.twitter.com/V1aCK2zGQp

— INSECUREHBO (@insecurehbo) July 27, 2017

Why It’s Not Okay, To Be Sloppy

 

Before you chime in with your feelings, can we just talk for a minute (yes, I know Issa, was wrong too).  But, there is something about #TeamLawrence that I can’t get behind, BEING SLOPPY.  Relationships are complicated, things often don’t go the way we planned, but Lawrence did something which I just can’t celebrate, he introduced a new innocent party (Tasha) into the relationship knowing that she was really interested in him.  #DummyMove
When Lawrence bought Tasha into this relationship mess to have “revenge relations” he was completely and totally disrespectful, immature and out of line.  Yes, I said it!

[Tweet “Introducing another person into your unresolved feelings without telling them is #Disrespecful. #TeamLawrence”]

It’s normal to give into your feelings, you’re hurt, you’re disappointed, you may even be devastated, but when people become your drug of choice you have a major problem.

Being Mature About It

 

Lawrence had a choice, he could have decided to step back, resolve his feelings with #Issa or he could of at least decided to disclosed where he was with Tasha.  At least that would of given her a choice in the matter.  If she decided to go forward, she’s an adult that would of been on her.

[Tweet ” A relationship that has it’s origin in mess, often stays right there.  @aidajingram #InsecureHBO”]

Tasha seems like a really nice woman, but when Lawrence didn’t say ‘this opportunity was only made possible because my girlfriend cheated and I’m mad’  he did both of them a disservice.  While so many on the internet cheered Lawrence and his actions, I saw another relationship foiled by a very human, but very immature decision.

When Your Not In A Good Place Your Relationships Won’t Be Either

When I saw last week’s episode, I think we all saw how mess never just goes away.  Lawrence slip with Issa was a great example of what happens when you are in a relationship with unresolved feelings for someone else.  Trust broken, shame and disappointment and for what?  It’s a new relationship so, Tasha and Lawrence, may get over this transgression, but this was an unnecessary situation.  I’m sure it’s also a common one.

What are your thoughts on Tasha from #InsecureHBO? Love her, hate her, pity her or completely indifferent? https://t.co/auJpUEZS9L pic.twitter.com/TPvWqn6qmH

— MadameNoire (@MadameNoire) July 31, 2017

I’m Not Judging, But I Am Asking A Question

When we celebrate Lawrence and his choice, can we REALLY afford to ignore his blatant disrespect, dare I say objectification of Tasha?  Relationships are hard enough, when we enter into them with secrets, undisclosed feelings and well, baggage are we really being fair to the person we are in a relationship with and are we really even being fair to ourselves?

I would love to hear your thoughts…

[Tweet “Just because you got hurt, doesn’t mean you have to be messy @aidajingram”]

If you haven’t watched the show check out #Insecure on HBO on Sunday at 10:30PM. You can watch the whole first Season on VerizonFios if you missed it, as well as the Season 2.  Here is the link if you don’t have there service and you want to look at their options.